Sharing vulnerably in business
Sharing vulnerably can be so scary but also so powerful. I think we are all looking for stories that are real, deep, and genuine. Stories that connect us to another, make us feel like we aren’t alone, and that someone else gets it.
As an empath, I know how much feelings and emotions connect me to my world. When I am moved by something or have an emotive connection to it, I feel much more invested. It’s hard for me to fully get something until I feel it in my being.
Sharing in business, I learned, is the same for me.
When I began sharing in my business in the early days as a health and wellness coach, I would share pieces on top tips for sleep, how to prioritise your daily habits, self-care tips for wellness at work and so on. Whilst these are all really valuable pieces of information and useful to people who need them, they didn’t connect me to my audience.
I intuitively knew there was more I could be doing here and, in my morning journaling and meditation, I kept getting the message to share more vulnerably. To share my stories and my own experiences. I was getting ideas for the specific stories I could share. The ones that had a message or that had changed me in some way, and I had begun to write some of them down, but they were sitting unshared in journals and on my laptop.
This totally ties into feeling safe to be seen, and I had a lot of fear coming up around this. But eventually, I surrendered to my intuition. I also read Brené Brown’s book on vulnerability and knew this was what I had to do. As I was moving more towards self-care at the time, I decided on a piece about my drinking habits. In it I shared incredibly vulnerably how I had behaved, how I felt, and how – with self-care – I had moved through it to get to where I was now. I put the piece into my newsletter template for that week, but then waited days, feeling all the feels before actually sending it.
I felt like I would be judged for sharing about my drinking: perhaps people would think I was an alcoholic; maybe they would think I was being self-indulgent by talking about this when there’s so much other big stuff going on in the world. I questioned if my sharing would actually be helpful for anyone else. What if I was too much? Or not enough? What would friends who knew me and that I had been with at that time think of me? I went through every thought imaginable that could and almost did stop me from sending that newsletter.
I did send it though. Once I pressed the button I remember feeling sick to my stomach and more exposed than ever before in my life.
But what happened next surprised me. I got replies from people, for the first time ever in my year of sending out blogs, saying how much they related. Thanking me for my honesty. Grateful to me for sharing my story. Telling me that it had really moved them. I was quite blown away and felt such an opening in my heart. It was an affirmation for me that I was on the right path.
From then on, I began to share more of the stories I had been writing down just for me. More were bubbling up to the surface and I just kept on sharing. Each time the feeling of being naked and exposed decreased a little bit and it eventually felt like an act of service and something I just had to do.
Something that helped me was detaching from any outcome. Sure, it was flattering for my ego to receive kind words, and heart-warming to know I was supporting others, but I knew it was also helping me to shed my layers: to release the stories that had been holding me back, and to let them go from my being.
The journey that sharing vulnerably took me on wasn’t what I expected. Through sharing my stories I found the confidence to finally write my book ‘Embodied’, which took my sharing vulnerably to a whole new level as I combined many of the stories I’d already written and added even more. Whilst being one of the most healing experiences of my life – one which supported me on multiple levels in terms of where I was holding myself back in my life and in my business – it also enabled me to reach more people: more soul clients and connections that have enriched my journey more than I thought possible, and continues to.
I’ve had people message me and say that they want to work with me as they relate to my story. I’ve had articles with my story in them published in multiple different media outlets and blogs online. And I have been asked to share my story at many speaking opportunities.
Daring to be vulnerable and to be seen for my truth and my story has connected me to who I am and what I am here to do on a whole new level. I truly believe the world needs more of it. For us to move through our experiences and reach the truth of who we are here to be, we have to face the depths of ourselves and shine a light on them.
(From my book Embodied Business)