The soul of my next offeringSeptember 1, 2023
It was September 11, 2019, and I was sitting in a pub in north London waiting for some friends and my partner at the time to join me. I had a cold cider next to me (my favourite), and knew that there would be a few more. I had been having birthday drinks with friends since I turned 18 and alcohol had played a big part in my life ever since I had lived in London. University evenings were filled with drinking and then I had done the whole work hard, play hard life especially as I often had work events and alcohol helped me to open up as an introvert.
I also enjoyed the whole drinks after work, pubs or bars on weekend culture. It opened up deeper, real conversations, especially with close friends of work mates – less of the BS small talk and actual stuff that made me feel something. Although of course then next day (which often turned into days) I wouldn’t feel like it had been quite so meaningful, and it would be blurred by the physical symptoms I felt – nausea, diarrhoea, headaches, and even worse the mental and emotional lows and anxiety I felt which had become my new baseline.
I had been dabbling with time off drinking here and there up to this point and knew how good I could feel when I stopped. My inner guidance was telling me to stop, it had been for years, but there were fears – How would I socialise with people without it? I was often the instigator as well as the last one standing (as the sugar in alcohol hyped up my sensitive system more than others). Would people still want to hang out with me? It was all I knew, and the main way I bonded with people. Who was I without it?
In addition to this my first book Embodied – A self-care guide for sensitive souls had come out exactly two months earlier, and since then I also was feeling out of alignment. I had put out a book talking about self-care, yet I continued to do something that was making me feel awful and was so not an act of self-care. It had to stop. So, I decided then and there that I would take one year off drinking to really see what happened, to follow my guidance, and also do it in a way that didn’t feel so final. And that’s what I did, and I haven’t looked back since.
In the months that followed, my life began to change around me. It felt like that one decision, that one commitment to myself, started to unravel everything. Three months later my long term relationship ended, and two months after that the idea for my next business (Empathpreneurs) aligning your business with the chakras came in, literally as I was packing up my room to move back to Kenya to live at home for a while with my parents. Then Covid hit and I got stuck there, my next book Embodied Business poured out of me, and everything grew from there, with my most recent book Embodied Wealth also coming out one year ago, on my birthday. (I have told versions of this story a few times, and written about it in my books, so if you’ve heard it a few times thank you for reading ☺️).
I’m not saying to stop drinking, I had many wonderful times drinking, the negatives just far began to outweigh the positives for me, and I *knew* that it had to go from my life for me to be more me. For me to step more into my own power, and create all the things I wanted to. To hold space for others more powerfully, and connect to my intuition more deeply. All I know is that as you begin to align your life with what you are being guided into thing begin to flow and unfold in ways that you can’t possibly imagine. Yes, there may be some hard choices to make and things to do, and it can feel like your whole world is falling apart at times. But you can also feel so held and so supported, and you will begin to open to a life (and business) even more magical than you could imagine. Aside from all the business creations, I am now also in a relationship with a man I have had a soul connection with and known for over 20 years, and am still blown away by the synchronicity and magic of how we got together after all these years. But I will save that story for another time.
So, I would love to know is there anything you are being called into, or to let go of, to align your life and/or business in some way right now?
If you aren’t sure, or would like to tune into this more deeply, I invite you to book in a connection call with me here.