Do you trust yourself as a leader?

How does this question sit with you?

You might say that you want to lead and make a difference, but do you actually trust yourself as a leader? Lack of trust can often hold you back from being the leader you know you are here to be, without even realising it.

Some of the things that came up for me around this were not walking my talk and feeling like a fraud – still indulging in unhealthy habits and behaviours when I was trying to be a health coach. I know no one has to be perfect, but there was a definite misalignment here for me and, as an empath, I have to be in integrity in order for me to claim I can do something. 

I also didn’t want to lead in the way I had seen others lead: generally men and women who were more in their masculine power. I saw them as being much louder and strong personalities, able to lead from a more dominating position. This always felt off to me, and I know is not something I can do, so I didn’t trust myself to lead in that way. I am much more aligned with leading from a place of gentle strength and inclusivity. Today there are many different types of leaders, and once you set the intention to find leaders you resonate with, the examples come flooding in.

One other thing that came up was thinking I didn’t know enough, or that I had to know everything – whatever that might be. This was definitely an old paradigm way of leading and came from my ego. I was scared I’d be caught out not knowing something or not having an answer if anyone ever asked me anything. I was caught up in that for a while; until I learned you only need to be a couple of steps (even just one) ahead and that we are all learning and growing on this path. 

I had to change many of the beliefs I had around what I thought a leader should be, as well as dive into where I was sabotaging myself from fully stepping into that energy.

• How can you learn to accept the leader YOU are?
• What kind of leader are you or do you want to be?
• How can you own who you are as a leader?

This blog post is an excerpt from my book, Embodied Business, you can get your own copy here or anywhere you buy your books online.

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