I used to apologise for everything I did, even just for answering a question. If someone asked me what I wanted to do, I would say ‘I’d like to do xxx, I’m sorry.’ If I needed anything I would start with ‘I’m sorry but xxx”.
I would apologise for having an opinion.
For wanting, or not wanting something.
Even for taking up space.
The list goes on.
It was like I felt I had to apologise for being me.
If I was ever going to be happy with myself, I had to stop apologising for being myself!
So, over time I consciously became more aware of when I did this and stopped myself. Today I only apologise if something is genuinely my fault.
Is there anywhere in your life where you apologise for no reason?
This is an excerpt from my book, Emboided. You can get your own copy of Embodied here or anywhere you buy your books online.
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