So much of life is spent pleasing others or feeling like you have to do the so-called ‘right’, ‘good’ or ‘perfect’ thing. I did this with my all or nothing approach. Being ‘good’, following strict diets, being a certain way, doing what I thought was right, when there was a part inside of me who wanted to be ‘bad’, and just say f*** it and do things I wasn’t ‘supposed’ to as I get bored being ‘good’ all the time!
Instead, when I honour the ‘bad’ part of myself and let her come out to play by paying more attention to her needs as they arise, she comes out in a much gentler way. Not in the extreme way from when I shut her away and she would explode out of me as she ‘had’ to come out!
It’s so liberating, freeing and an affirmation that I genuinely care about my varying needs!
How can you be ‘bad’ without hurting yourself or anyone else?
Goodbye good girl
I’m SO fed up of being the good girl
The girl who does the ‘right’ thing.
The girl that doesn’t get angry.
The girt that does what she’s told.
The girl who puts everyone else first.
The girl who would never dream of being honest if it meant hurting someone else’s feelings.
The girl who smiles even when she feels shit inside.
The girl who puts on a brave face no matter what.
The girl who has forgotten what it feels like to ‘feel’ in case it stirs up something.
The girl who would never dream of being bad.
I am SO fed up of being her.
She served her purpose, I’m grateful to her for protecting me, for doing what she thought was best. But now it’s time to say farewell.
This is it. I am done.
Goodbye Good Girl.
This blog post is an excerpt from my book, Embodied. You can get your own copy of Embodied here or anywhere you buy your books online.
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